Tuesday, October 4, 2016


We see what's happening in Syria, Palestine, Kashmir, Iraq, Yemen, Afghanistan and to rest of the Muslim Ummah and it's distressing. It really is and sometimes, it's hard for us to console ourselves. We wonder when it's going to stop and why it's even happening. Seeing pictures of helpless fathers holding the body of their little baby, children crying over the dead body of their mother, infants, barely months old bleeding to death. We can hardly bear a prick on our hands and here, those kids are suffering so much. It's unfair, we think.
I tell you this because I've had these thoughts running around my head like why Allah is allowing the oppresses to kill His servants. 
Only today, I was reflecting on this verse from Surah Aal Imran, verse 18:
Allah bears witness that there is no deity except Him, and [so do] the angels and those of knowledge - [that He is] maintaining [creation] in justice. There is no deity except Him, the Exalted in Might, the Wise.
So you see, there is never an instance, even a split second in which Allah does injustice to His creation. Find this difficult to accept? Would you believe your mother if she told you she loved you? Then believe your Lord, the Most Truthful, when He not only says but also bears witness to the fact that He maintains justice. And who's testimony do we need other than Allah's?
The thing is we are quick to judge everything on the apparent and we fail to delve deeper into it. The oppressors, whether they are the president of a country, an army or even an individual person, if they do injustice, if they kill someone without any right and oppress them, do you think that Allah is going to let them be? Never.
And do you think that those who are oppressed, the innocent men, women and children are going to suffer without an end? Of course not.
For the oppressors, they are deluded by their wealth, influence and power and they forget that a day is soon going to come when they will meet their Lord and when that time comes, do you think Allah who loves us more than even or own mother is going to let them be? Impossible.
When they meet their death and they definitely will, they are going to be questioned by Allah for every single soul they killed, for every square inch of land they stole, for everything they robbed from the people. They laughed after inflicting harm on the Muslims and on the Day of Judgement, they will burn in the fire again and again. Never can they get away from that. They had all the influence in the world and helpers left right and center but who will come to their rescue on the Day of Judgement? No one. And on top of that, when Allah will ask them if they enjoyed any pleasure in the world, what will they say? Nothing. They enjoyed no pleasure because the horrors of the Day of Judgement is such that mankind will forget every pleasure of this world.
Isn't this justice my brothers and sisters? This is Allah's justice.
And as for those who were oppressed, whether they are dead or living today in Syria, Palestine, Kashmir, Yemen, Afghanistan or anywhere else in this world, they have been killed for the simple reason that they are Muslims right? They sacrificed their life for Allah and do you think Allah is going to deprive them of life?
Think not of those who are killed in the Way of Allah as dead. Nay, they are alive, with their Lord, and they have provision. (Quran 3: 169)
When they return to Allah, they will be under the care of Allah enjoying, receiving provision and rejoicing. As for those who are suffering at the hands of the tyrants, know that soon Allah will give you relief. With Allah, you have a guaranteed and perfect future, In sha Allah. For every pain you endured, Allah will increase your rank in Jannah and give you pleasures that will make you forget everything you suffered in this world. If Allah were to ask you in Jannah if you suffered any difficulty, you would certainly say that you never ever suffered. The pleasures of Jannah is such that it will make you forget any difficulty you endured here.
Isn't this justice my brothers and sisters? This is Allah's justice.
It might not be in the way we expect it to be but it will be the best justice and the most deserving justice.
So be among those people of knowledge who bears witness to the fact that Allah maintains justice with His creation.
Allah bears witness that there is no deity except Him, and [so do] the angels and those of knowledge - [that He is] maintaining [creation] in justice. There is no deity except Him, the Exalted in Might, the Wise.

Laa ilaha illahuwa al Azeez al Hakeem.

Thursday, September 29, 2016


With each passing day, the state of the Ummah is becoming very worrying. The concept of modesty is diminishing  so fast and just a few days back, I came across this video about a woman who was naked and her body paint was actually a t-shirt and a trouser so it looked like she was properly dressed. The first thing that came to my mind was this: 
As one of the minor signs before the Day of Judgment, Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) mentioned: “There will be women who will be dressed but they will be naked".
Most of you must have read about the Hijabi who posed for Playboy. Yes, in a way, the world needs to know that the Hijab doesn't subjugate women or that Hijabis are not oppressed. I mean, I really don't have to go into that topic because most of you must be sick with it already. My point is that we need to let the world know that Hijab is our right but if they aren't willing to accept it, what do we do?
a) Go to extremes and stop at nothing to let people know that the Hijab is our right
b) Simply stop is there and ignore the backlash because people who are intent on not understanding will never understand anyway.
While I would certainly choose the latter and ignore the haters, Noor Tagouri clearly pushed it waaay too much.
No- I'm not going to write an entire article criticizing her. You see, that's the fault with this Ummah. If there is a problem, we don't go down to the root of it but rather, we take it out on social media and the end result- everyone sees Muslims as a divided group of people. Nour made a point in her interview- "I know what it's like to have the narrative of our community be skewed and exploited in the media. I was like, 'Hey, I know what it’s like to be misrepresented in the media. I won't do that to you. I want to tell your story because it’s important and deserves justice'."
But the thing is, I don't agree with the platform she chose to explain her views. Playboy we all know, is a porn magazine and no Muslim women deserves to be associated with it. And no Muslim man either because porn is disgusting and vile and even if we sneak those magazines and read it when no one's watching, remember Allah watches over you. So fear Him.
The word "Hijab" and "Playboy" are worlds apart and seeing it associated together is honestly shameful. Playboy has been objectifying women as sexual objects and the Hijab is the total opposite of it where women who wear the Hijab are being covered and protected from being sexualized. You get the point here?
So Nour, if you're reading there is just one thing to be reflected on- On the Day of Judgement when Allah asks you why you agreed to pose for Playboy, what would the reply be? Think about it.
And brothers and sisters- please let's stop insulting her. Whether what she did was right or wrong, the only thing we can do is advise her and not insult her. 
Once again, I don't want people thinking that I agree with the whole Playboy Hijabi thing- I don't of course- but my point here is that as a Ummah, we are divided already. Don't get into social media debates and give reason for people to laugh at us even more. 

Monday, August 29, 2016


I'll just break right in to it- it's a terrible time to be living in. Islamophobia is just getting out of control and the news has been just so shocking.

For one, 3 young Muslims were asked to get off a plane and were questioned for about one hour just because they had Arabic text on their phones! Then there was this pre schooler who mispronounced cucumber as "cooker bomb" threatened with counter terrorism. A child for god's sake who hardly knows to even pronounce words yet! What's the world coming to? Oh and just so if you don't believe all these, you can check the news here:


Then of course, the trending news on social media about French officials who demanded a woman to remove her burkini in the beach. 

And oh dear, the hate comments on Twitter, Facebook, etc. There was this time when I used to get all riled up when someone insulted me on Twitter but it has become such a norm that I've gotten so used to it. If there's one thing I've learnt, it's that people who talk utterly disrespectfully, then no amount of talking, showing proof and resources, nothing at all is going to change them. There's only one way to deal with hate and that's what the Quran teaches us. In these times where Islamophobia is hitting an all-time high, this is a great time for us to show the world the real beauty of Islam and the message of peace. 
And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace - Quran 25:63
I know that sometimes when the insults get too much to bear, you might want to vent your anger out but know that people judge Islam by Muslims so if you speak harshly, that's how they are going to label the entire religion as a whole. It's not a personal matter of letting your anger out. Look at the bigger picture- if you do so, you're tarnishing the name of Islam itself.

So how do you deal with all the hate and insults? 

"You will surely be tested in your possessions and in yourselves. And you will surely hear from those who were given the Scripture before you and from those who associate others with Allah much abuse. But if you are patient and fear Allah - indeed, that is of the matters [worthy] of determination" - Quran 3:186

It's amazing how perfectly Allah has arranged this verse. It's a reality- all of us will be tested at some point and all of us will have to deal with Islamophobia. Sometimes from our own families and friends and that can be unbearably hurtful. So how can we deal with it?
Allah says it most beautifully in just 2 words: Sabr and Taqwa. The abuse and hurtful comments are really difficult and sometimes, all we want to do is scream but at this time, we have to be patient, no matter how tough it may be. Swallow up your anger, bite down on your frustration and be patient for the sake of Allah. 
The next is Taqwa. We cannot exercise Sabr if we don't have Taqwa because if there's one thing that can force us to be patient, it's the fear of Allah.
Remember that even the Prophets weren't spared of this. They were hurt on the basis of Deen so be patient over all this and fear Allah in how to react or respond to hurtful comments; otherwise, we will end up being the oppressor.
Secondly, stop going for debates. If someone asks a question decently, respond decently. Otherwise, just ignore them because in most cases, talking will do no good. And no matter how hard it may seem at that time, make silent Duaa to Allah to guide that person to Islam. If Umar Radhiyallahu anhu who came to kill Prophet Muhammad Sallalahu alaihi wasallam could become such a devout supporter of the Prophet, then surely guiding anyone, no matter how wrong they are is easy for Allah.
And while I'm at it, just because of a few shallow minded Islamophobes, don't generalize everyone. There are so many wonderful people out there as well. Treat everyone well because what Islamophobes say and insult, it's a sin they should bear and if you insult them in the same way, what difference is there between us and them?

"And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend." [Al Quran 41: 34]

I know, this is really difficult sometimes but you know what? It's a test. A test of your Imaan, your character and your values.

Next time you are entangled in an Islamophobic mess, you'll know how to come out of it, In sha Allah, and inspire many people along the way as well.

Friday, August 12, 2016


So, it's just over a month since Ramadhan has departed and yet, it feels like an age ago. To be honest, this has probably been my worst post-Ramadhan ever. I have never missed the month so much! :( 
During Ramadhan, SubhanAllah, I was so happy. I think my soul was happy, which naturally made me happy. I read this post online that goes somewhere around the lines of "Do you know why you are so happy in Ramadhan? It's because your soul is doing exactly what it's meant to be doing, that is worshiping Allah". That is so definitely true and I'm sure most of you'll can relate to this as well. Not for a single moment in Ramadhan did I feel bored, depressed or any negativity for that matter. There was just one focus and that was worshiping Allah. No wonder I was so happy.
And then, Ramadhan ended and there came all the negative thoughts that washed over me like this huge tidal wave. We have given Shaytan so much of power over us that we allow him to dictate our thoughts and moods without trying to fight back ourselves and this naturally leads to a pit fall. 
I'm not saying depression or sadness or worry is a bad thing. It's natural but we should not allow it to dictate our lives. Why is that we had so much of hope and life in our Duaas during Ramadhan but now, we feel like Allah is not even listening to us. If you do feel that way, and I'm saying this to myself first, it's because we have gone far away from Allah. Allah is the same merciful Lord as He was in Ramadhan but are we the same obedient slaves to Him as we were in Ramadhan? Allah is still there with us, He still descends to the lowest heavens every single day during Tahajjud so that we may ask Him whatever we want and that He gives it to us. And what are we doing during this time? Sleeping. If we feel so low and depressed, then it's our own fault.
Sometimes the only way you can get out of all this is by just talking to yourself. Constantly remember and remind yourself that Allah is always there with you, ready to answer your Duaas but are you ready to talk to Him? Remind yourself that Shaytan wins us over by making us depressed where we start questioning what Allah has decreed for us and when you feel this way, remind yourself that accepting fate is part of faith. Good and bad both come from Allah so ask Him to enlighten and inspire you. Ask Him for strength to overcome Shaytan and your own nafs. 
If you miss Ramadhan and you want to feel that spirituality you felt during that month, then do some things that you did during Ramadhan. Recite the Quran, at least 2 pages per day. If we could recite 2 entire chapters a day during Ramadhan, then 2 pages isn't a huge deal, is it? It might take anywhere around about 10 minutes, at the most. Also, study the Tafseer of the Quran. There are plenty of free resources online where you can listen to the Tafseer of the Quran so dedicate an hour a day for this as well, In sha Allah. (You can listen to it on Youtube where Ustaad Noman Ali Khan is teaching the Tafseer of Surah Baqarah. It's amazing, SubhanAllah so listen to it). Pray your Sunnahs and give charity. In sha Allah, your soul will be content and you mind will feel refreshed.
We need to re-connect with Allah. And that shouldn't be something we do only during Ramadhan. Push yourself to worshiping Allah with humility and submissiveness and see for yourself if your soul doesn't rejoice at that.
May Allah make every day of our lives an opportunity and a means to come closer to Him. 

Thursday, July 28, 2016


So the Hijaab and the Niqaab- the topic that always seems to be on the spotlight when it comes to Muslim woman and is seen as a worldwide symbol of subjugation, oppression and backwardness. A piece of cloth that screams "I'm oppressing the one who is wearing me!". The cloth that that says "I'm uneducated, limited, forced into wearing it by my male-dominated religion". 

So yes, this is the Hijab and Niqab in the eyes of many non-Muslims. But are they the ones who are wearing it? Do they know for a minute how it feels to be wearing it? Do they understand how it feels when you want to wear it but people who you know nothing about and who know nothing about you suddenly feel like they have all the rights to demand you to wear what they want?

Let me show you what it's like to be a Hijabi/Niqabi. No, no, no, no... Don't freak out. I know you might be disgusted with the very idea of even putting on Hijab/Niqab *virtually* but just step into our shoes for a moment. You might just begin to understand us.

In the shoes of a Hijabi/Niqabi

You choose to wear the Hijab/Niqab because it is a personal choice and yet, people think you are forced into wearing it. 
Each time you step outside, you have to endure taunts and insults and you are constantly being jeered at for doing something you want to do. 
You wear the Hijab/Niqab and they claim that it subjugates you and you know that it's only a form of freedom for you. 
They say you are oppressed and yet, they oppress you by questioning your rights to wear what you want. 
And on top of that, they claim that you are accepting slavery when you know that by wearing the Hijab/Niqab, you have never felt more free. 

You feel free by wearing your tank top and shorts. We feel free by wearing the Hijab/Niqab. I mean just think about it- how would you feel if a person suddenly comes out of the blue and decides that he/she has all the rights in the world to tell you what is freedom and what is oppression. We all have a brain of our own and we are capable of thinking on our own, thank you very much. So yeah, what you think is oppression is my freedom and what you think is freedom is my oppression. This is how humans are. We are different, we have different ideas and we have different opinions. Be mature enough to embrace that.

But please, keep your opinions to yourself. What makes you think you have the right to force people to thinking in your way? Turn the tables around and a bit and give people their own freedom. Don't claim to be liberating them by forcing them to remove what they want to wear and then clap yourself on the back and say "Hey, I liberated that oh so poor oppressed soul by just forcing her to remove what she loves to wear which by the way is oppressive and I'm only doing her a favour by liberating her of that creepy piece of oppressive material". 

Does is make sense? Of course not. I'm as baffled as you.

Think from a Hijabi's/Niqabi's perspective for just a moment. She has a heart and she has a voice. Let that be heard as well. If wearing the Hijab/Niqab is her form of freedom, then please, have the simple decency of giving her the freedom she wants.

Thursday, May 26, 2016



Assalamu Aleikum,
This is an interview I had with sister Juwayriyah.She has a blog mashallah and it is very beneficial here is the link to anyone who is interested in reading it: notafragileflower.wordpress.com

Jazakallah for your participation and patience. I hope we all benefit from this wonderful interview. May Allah bless and guide you.

Tell us a little about yourself?

I'm an eighteen year old American girl- (not your average one, I'm afraid) Interested in art, writing, reading, and human rights....I lived in Yemen for nearly ten years before returning here and growing up. I wear the niqab, which I guess is pretty unusual, but I'm proud of being unusual. I was homeschooled by my mother and am hoping to get my 'government approved' diploma this year.

What inspired you to wear the niqab?

My mother and older sister. I wanted to be just like them when I started wearing it....I remember being so proud when I got my first niqab. Now that I'm older I realize there's more to it than 'being like Ummi' but I feel the same about it.

How old were you when you started wearing the niqab?

Maybe nine? But at that point it wasn't something I had to do. I didn't realize how unusual that was until we came back here.

A lot of people tend to believe that wearing the niqab is a barrier for education, work, and social life. What are your thoughts on this?

As for work and education, I believe anything you can do in khimar you can do in niqab too. It's not seen here so often, of course, but in Yemen doctors and teachers and students all wore the niqab (around men, of course) and no one batted an eye. About social life- often it's up to to you to make people feel comfortable, but once they get that you're just a girl like all the other girls, things are fine.

You live in a Muslim minority country. Is wearing the niqab difficult there?

I also live in a practically zero-Muslim area in America! However- surprisingly -not particularly, I don't think. I don't go to school, so I was spared that, and It's usually nothing worse than the occasional ninja remark. You have a consciousness of being different, but it's not that hard for me. I've also learned not to judge people at a glance- some of the unlikeliest people have been the loveliest.

How do you feel when people react negatively towards you wearing the hijab and niqab?

Usually it just passes me by. I've gotten used to it......usually the rudest people are cowards and refuse to make eye contact, so it's just kind of pesky. I've never felt physically threatened; however, the most disturbing incident was one man who said he was going to shoot me. It was just a nasty over the shoulder comment, but I think that's the worst I've got. I feel like I belong here too, so they can just keep away if they don't like it.

If someone approaches you asking you why you wear the niqab. How would you respond to them?

We are told to cover our beauty to avoid causing or falling into wrong, and this is how I believe is the best way. It also brings us closer to Allah and further from trying to please the people, and I think that is the greatest kind of freedom.

How do you feel you have changed after you started wearing the niqab?

Honestly, I can't pinpoint something exact; it was just such a normal step towards growing up. One thing I can say is people always think I'm older than I am (which is okay for now, but in ten years-) and because my mother taught me to hold my head up and follow my convictions I do earn respect- from others and myself. But since I came here and was forced to defend the step I think it has made me a stronger person- since I got through the doubt and came out on top.

What advice would you give to young muslim women wanting to wear the hijab or niqab but are afraid to do so?

I tell myself that the pleasure of Allah is worth unimaginably more than the pleasure of the people-or yourself- but it's not always that easy. I understand being afraid of scaring people off or even angering your family, and it's not easy. But I think in the end the people who are worth it will accept you- as a person, not a niqab or hijab. I don't want to stand before Allah and have nothing to say- nothing except excuses, which are worth nothing. And since you never know when that will be, don't wait. Also that there are so many of us out there that will offer you strength and a proverbial shoulder to cry on , so if you need help, don't hesitate to ask. We are your sisters.

Tell us more about your blog

Well, I started it because I thought there were too few blogs out there that showed our side of things. Nobody really wants to listen, but if we make enough noise, someone will listen. Everyone wants to weigh in on the niqab debate (not burqa, people!) but too few of us who actually wear it are invited to say what we want the world to hear. I decided to invite myself. I might regret it. It's also about some other things I think need discussion (none of that yet) and poetry which I took the plunge and decided to share and see if I'm really a horrible poet. Oh, and it's called notafragileflower.wordpress.com

The Quran is beautiful, but we always have that one verse which is special to our hearts. What is yours?

I think the ayah I love best is about the believers, when Allah says-
(And when they hear Al Laghw (dirty, false, evil talk) they with draw from it and say- "To us our deeds and to you your deeds. Peace be to you. We seek not the ignorant.") It contains so much grace in it, and too few of us have try to have that grace and peace with other today. My favourite Surah is Surat Yusuf... it's such a truly beautiful story and an example for us all.

Any niqabi incidents you would like to share?

Eating a melting ice cream cone with my squirming babysitting charge on my lap- and his melting ice cream cone in my other hand. Suffice to say, It. Was. A. Disaster. Fortunately I was going home afterwards, not the other way around. I would have been too ashamed to appear in public in that mess! :).. Moral of the story: Don't get two ice cream cones on a hot day, because you won't have a hand to lift your niqab.

Your parting words

Always remember why you're doing something. If you're doing it for Allah, you'll be the winner. 

Note: If you would like to be interviewed for our blog, leave us an email on niqablovers@gmail.com and we'll get back to you, In Sha Allah. Sisters only.

Wednesday, May 25, 2016


O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies . That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever OftForgiving, Most Merciful”

[al-Ahzaab 33:59] 

One thing that has not been understood by Muslims and non-Muslims is in relation to the Hijab. While the non-Muslims are quick to pounce on Hijabis/Niqabis with the infamous "oppressed/backward/slave" tag, sadly, even Muslims need to understand the concept of Hijab properly.

The biggest misconception is that people believe that the Hijab is just the headscarf and once you don that, you have fulfilled the obligation of wearing the Hijab. Sisters, you know as well as I do that this is not true. Hijab is so much
more than just the scarf you wrap around your head. It's a set of morals and a code of conduct. This is the Hijab the Quran tells us about

“And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts”

[al-Ahzaab 33:53] 

An important note here: I've heard a lot of people comment on this Ayah saying that it applies only to the wives of the Prophet Salallahu alaihi wasallam. So here's my question: If Allah has commanded this for the wives of our Prophet, then what is the case with us? Do we think we are better than the Ummahatul Mu'mineen that we don't need to follow this Ayah?

So, this is where the topic really heats up. Is it ok for Muslimahs to upload pictures of themselves online? If Allah has commanded that we Muslimahs should speak from behind a screen and that this is purer for our hearts and for their's, then I'll let you think for yourself about publicly uploading your pictures online.Just think of it: there are probably hundreds of online psychopaths who are probably staring hard at the picture you uploaded right now! *shudder*

Before jumping into conclusions that I am an extremist, let me make things clear. This is a really wide topic so please make sure that you read it right up to the end before coming to any conclusion.

Uploading pictures online has taken huge leaps and is still taking, in fact. Hijabis uploading pictures of themselves with their faces dolled up with make-up and with their hair uncovered in some cases too. And more recently, the obsession with the pout and selfies. Need I even mention what a provocative pose the pout is and what kind of respect are we giving the Hijab if we pout with the Hijab and upload those pictures online? I don't meant to be harsh, but what do you really expect out of uploading your pictures online? Is a few likes and "MashaAllah's" really worth it when you are displeasing Allah? This also applies to a few Niqabis who upload their pictures online with their eyes heavily made up. I'm not giving away Fatwas or anything like that because of course, I have no authority to do so. But just think for yourself- do you think it's a good thing to do and what do you really gain by it?

For the Sake of Allah sisters, read this with an open mind. It may be that you are not aware of the dangers you are causing to yourself and the people who are actually viewing your picture. It is true that just like women, men need to lower their gaze, but aren't we responsible for what we give them to gaze at? And if they gaze at our pictures (which is obviously a huge possibility given the fact that we have probably uploaded our best picture), shouldn't we share the burden of that sin too? Trust me on this sisters: It is NOT worth it!

While I am at it, I really need to point out another thing to the brothers. Please make it easier for the sisters to lower their gaze online too because lowering the gaze is a command for the women just as it is for the men. 

Like I mentioned at the start of the post, some of you might want to lash out at this being too extreme, but please remember what Allah says in the Quran about Shaytan making our deeds fair seeming to us. 

"... but Satan made their deeds attractive to them" [Quran 16: 63]

"And the record [of deeds] will be placed [open], and you will see the criminals fearful of that within it, and they will say, "Oh, woe to us! What is this book that leaves nothing small or great except that it has enumerated it?" And they will find what they did present [before them]. And your Lord does injustice to no one." [Quran 18: 49]

And what will Shaytan who tempted us to upload our pictures online say on that Day?

"And Satan will say when the matter has been concluded, "Indeed, Allah had promised you the promise of truth. And I promised you, but I betrayed you. But I had no authority over you except that I invited you, and you responded to me. So do not blame me; but blame yourselves" [Al Quran 14: 22]

On that day, we are going to regret, but how will that regret benefit us? Change yourself today, and In Sha Allah on the Day of Reckoning, we will be free from any regret, In sha Allah.

Here is a really detailed explanation on the Ruling on a woman uploading her picture on Facebook

May Allah give us all understanding of Deen and if I have offended anyone with this post, I'm really sorry. Just feel like this is something I had to talk about.