Thursday, April 18, 2013

ADVICE FOR SISTERS WHO ARE THINKING OF WEARING THE NIQAB




MashaAllah, there are so many sisters out there who genuinely love to wear the Niqab but are afraid of wearing it for fear of what people might say. To these sisters, here are a few words of advice:

If you have made the intention of wearing the Niqab, Allah will help you- despite your family's or societies disapproval. What is our purpose in life? To worship none but Allah and this also means to be obedient first and foremost to Allah. The moment you start considering the Niqab, ask yourself just one question: Who should I please- Allah or people?
Once you make that decision, you can follow whether you ought to wear the Niqab or not.
I know sisters, saying it is easy enough. But you know what? Allah can make the difficult easy and the easy difficult. Everything is in His Hands and so long as we place our trust in Him, He and He alone will suffice for us. 

“And whoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty) and He will provide him from sources he never could imagine” [Sura At-Talaaq 65:2-3]

My dear sisters, isn't this guarantee from Allah good enough for us? It's true, we might have to face some difficulties, but those will only be tests of Imaan, Taqwa and patience. 
Those sisters whose family are not supportive of their wearing the Niqab, I can only give you consolation from this beautiful Hadith:

Prophet Muhammad sallahau alaihi wasallam said "Whoever sought the pleasure of Allah though it was displeasing to the people then Allah becomes pleased with him, and will make the people please with him, and whoever sought the pleasure of the people though it was displeasing to Allah then Allah becomes displeased with him and will make the people displeased with him" (Ibn Hibban/ Tirmidhi)

This is another great guarantee for us- your family might not accept your Niqab, but if you do it for earning only the pleasure of Allah, even if it costs you your family's displeasure, remember that Allah will make those who were displeased with you, pleased with you, In Sha Allah. Believe in that, accept it and rely on that.

The Hadith mentioned above is a real proof to an incident. A sister I know of really wanted to wear the Niqab but her Mother wouldn't permit her to do so. But MashaAllah, this sister's courage and determination to wear the Niqab was so strong that despite her mother's disapproval, she wore it. Of course, at first her mother scolded her and she had to go through some problems, but do you know what- when Allah wants to help someone, no one and nothing can stop Him. If we are determined on pleasing Allah, He will suffice for us and like that Quranic verse above mentions, "He will make a way for him to get out of every difficulty". So this mother who hated the Niqab, started to admire it after some time, the same women who disapproved of her daughter's Niqab approved of it and in time, her mother became a Niqabi too. Subhanallah!

This story, I'm sure, would be a great source of inspiration for those sisters who are facing difficulties from their families who disapprove of the Niqab. Like I said at the beginning of this post- weigh your options- Please Allah or please people? Through your wearing the Niqab, who knows, you might even inspire your family members who are reluctant of it to wear it someday too, In Sha Allah. And if they do so, you'll be rewarded for it too!

Remember sisters, on the Day of Judgment, it's only you that is going to matter. All the opinion of those around you matter only here- but in the Aakhira we'll come to realize that nothing but Allah's opinion matters. If we realize this fact in this Dunya itself, we can, In Sha Allah, live the live of a true Muslim and a true Mu'min. 

Take the decision that matters. Take the decision that will help you in the Aakhira. Take the decision that will bring for you the Pleasure of Allah. 


44 comments:

  1. Jazakillah khair for this heart warming piece of advice. :)

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    1. Wa anthum fa jazakamullah khair sis!

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  2. JazakAllah for the wonderful advice may Allah swt be please with you and accept your efforts <3 definitely very motivational

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    1. Wa anthum fa jazakamullah khair sis and Ameen to you Du'aas! :)

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  3. I'd get thrown out of the house if I tried wearing my abaya and niqab. My grandmother wasn't pleased the first and only time she saw me wearing my abaya. I live with my grandmother until Phoenix and I can Insha Allah make our marriage legal under Saudi law(hopefully it will be legalized by the end of this month) as we can't afford an apartment of my own here. Mom wouldn't let me back in her house either. I hope that we can get into University of Ottawa because it looks like I'll be able to wear niqab there with no issues as I asked a Muslim woman who is a student at University of Ottawa. But good advice for those thinking of wearing niqab.

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    1. I understand you situation sis and I do hope that Allah will show you a solution soon, In Sha Allah! Great to know that you'll get your marriage legalized by the Saudi law by the end of the month. You are definitely in my Duaas :)

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  4. Jazakallah khair for this post! May Allah reward you. And please continue posting, I love reading your blog and can definitely relate. Niqabi's need to not fear wearing the niqab and need to remain strong even when it seems the world is against you. As a 1 year convert to Islam, I've been wearing niqab since the beginning. On my blog I posted two different posts, one on how as a Niqabi I'm treated by non-muslims and one post on how Muslims treat me.

    Please check it out and share your experiences.

    http://goriniqabiwife.blogspot.com/

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    1. Wa anthum fa jazakamullah khair and Ameen to your Dua, sis!
      I just read your recent blog posts, and it's true sis. I can take any amount of insult from non-Muslims, but when it's Muslims who insult my Niqab, it really hurts. May Allah guide them all!

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    2. Exactly! When one Mulim attacks another Muslim it's truly heartbreaking and un-islamic behavior. I just posted another story on my blog today about my experiences as a Niqabi when I have to go to the masjid and how terribly I've been treated by women there. Please check it out, I'm sure you'll relate to it as a niqabi.
      I look forward to more of your posts insha'allah :-)

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  5. jazakallah khairan 4 the post If you really want to do something for the sake of Allah, no matter how hard it might seem, Allah will help you.

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  6. As Salamualaikum sis! Beautifully written post. I used to wear the niqab on and off and haven't had it on in almost 6 years, buy my heart is always inclining toward it! I have been giving it serious thought lately and Insha'allah will be returning to it! This was just motivation to put the icing on the cake <3 May Allah reward you, Ameen!

    Barakaallahu feekum!

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  7. Actually Niqab is not fard. Womens came in front of Rasool(s) without niqab. We should not make a big deal with niqab

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    1. It seems luke you're the one making a big deal if you felt the need to come comment that it's not fardh. Are you a scholar? Some scholars consider it fardh, and others say it is not,but highly recommanded. And for you to say some women came in front of the prophet (s.a.w.) without niqab, where is your proof? And even if it were true, then what would you say about those who wore niqab (including his ownnnn wives)? Even Aisha (r.a.) used to teach people behind a screen. So if you really thought it wasn't a big deal, you would wouldn't have felt the need to come comment on a post that's suppose to encourage Muslim women who WANT to wear the niqab.
      This proves that you have an issue with the niqab, and you need to get over it please.

      I wish you all the best.

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    2. It seems luke you're the one making a big deal if you felt the need to come comment that it's not fardh. Are you a scholar? Some scholars consider it fardh, and others say it is not,but highly recommanded. And for you to say some women came in front of the prophet (s.a.w.) without niqab, where is your proof? And even if it were true, then what would you say about those who wore niqab (including his ownnnn wives)? Even Aisha (r.a.) used to teach people behind a screen. So if you really thought it wasn't a big deal, you would wouldn't have felt the need to come comment on a post that's suppose to encourage Muslim women who WANT to wear the niqab.
      This proves that you have an issue with the niqab, and you need to get over it please.

      I wish you all the best.

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  8. JazakiAllah hu khairan for the post.
    Please follow my blogs. Thank you for taking out time
    http://dynamicmuslimbloggers.blogspot.com/
    and this is my personal blog, http://patiencewitheverything.blogspot.com/

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  9. as salaam wa alaikum..does my husband have to approve me wearing the niqab first ..or could i wear it although it displeases him..?jazak allah khair

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    1. Wa'alaykum slaam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu sis!
      It would be great if you can get your husband to aprove of your wearing the Niqab before you actually wear it, but if he is likely to disagree, try showing him the importance of the Niqab in the light of the Quran and Hadith. You can read here for more information http://niqablovers.blogspot.com/2012/12/niqab-is-necessary-in-islam.html
      http://niqablovers.blogspot.com/2012/07/is-wearing-niqab-fardh.html?showComment=1378638103157#c9012959451240618715
      http://niqablovers.blogspot.com/2013/03/a-question-for-those-who-dont-see-niqab.html

      Whether you can wear the Niqab without your husband's consent- I'm not so sure about that sis, but I think it should be ok, because obedience to Allah comes before anything else. Anyway, it's best if you could get this clarified by an Aalim.

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  10. Very well written, Ma Sha Allah :)
    I was actually wondering on what advice to give to the sisters who wanted to do the niqab but couldn't due to whatever reason. This helped a lot. Jazakillah sister. May Allah be pleased with you and may Allah make you a source of sadqah-e-jaria through those women who read this article and spread it.
    When I started niqab, I also had a few objections from a few (like, one or two) family members (but, Alhamdulillah I had my mother's support).
    But I even felt a little disheartened at that (even though most of my family didn't say much about it). I talked to my mother a lot about this and she helped me throughout. It's been a year now Alhamdulillah and I have never felt better.
    Some advice for sisters, though: I was 16 when I started the niqab, and EVEN I regret not wearing it earlier. I even know a few girls who started the niqab even before puberty! Subhan Allah! I envy those girls now. So if you really want to do the niqab, then please don't delay it. Because Shaytan can do much harm in no time.

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    1. Assalamu Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu Ukhty!
      Aameen to your Duas! A few of my cousins and Aunt don't agree with the Niqab too, but I have the support of my parents, so that means a lot. Alhamdulillah!
      Jazakallah khair for your advice too :)

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  11. Subhanallah! I really want to start wearing a niqab! Seeing all the modesty and all for the sake of ur lord subhanallah! But i dont know if college would allow me? I dont really care what others think of me i can take that but i just dont know how to start or so?

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    1. Yeah I had the same questions!
      As a college student, I don't think it matters to the college if you're wearing a niqab or not.
      Inshallah you'll do great! I'm also thinking of wearing it :)

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  12. Algamdulilaah yesterday was my first day in niqaab nd I must say it was mashallah we tend to wanna give up because of people nd its not fair Allah comes first so idc bwt what others say nomore hijaab is hot for girls bt imagine how hot the fire is going to be so let us guard our modesty inshallah nd steadfastness nd never give up lots of sabr adaab nd ahklaaq inshallah

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  13. What do you wear underneath the niqab?

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  14. asalamu alikoum sister I really enjoyed your post. I am only 11 and I want to start wearing niqab but my parents say I am to young sister what advice would you give me jasakillah for reading
    wasalamalikoum

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    1. Wa'alaykum salaam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu Ukhty,

      MashaAllah, it's great to know to that you want to wear the Niqab. May Allah bless you for your intentions and He will definitely show you a way to wear it sis.

      Wearing the Niqab at an early age is a great step sister, MashaAllah! If your parents think you're too young for it, you might also want to have a good long talk with them on the importance of the Niqab in Islam. You can read here for more info or even them to read it :

      The source is Islam Q & A so it is extremely reliable MashaAllah: http://islamqa.info/en/11774

      You can also talk to them on how much you want to wear the Niqab and tell them that it means a lot to you. Pray 2 rakahs of Salatul Haaja before you talk to your parents about this and Allah's Help and your mothers approval will definitely come. :) Give it some time Ukhty and during that time, make lots of Duaa and be steadfast in your intentions.

      It's amazing how Allah can change the hearts of people sis. And like I said, if you really have the love for wearing the Niqab, Allah will show you a way In sha Allah.

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  16. Assalamualaikum wrwb. .I have a question..Is 38 years old considered too old to start wearing niqab? Jz

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    1. Wa'alaykum salaam warahmatullahu wabarakatuhu Ukhty,

      Not at all sister. No age is too old to do something that will bring you closer to Allah :)

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    2. Wa alaikum as salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,Sister I'm a few years older and struggle with wearing niqab 1. because of the current rise in islamaphobia and 2.the neighborhood I reside in,MY husband is away and actually demands I wear niqab. Allah subhana wa ta'ala knows best.

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  17. JazakAllahu qeiran for the beautiful post. Today when i was driving to work i saw a sister wearing the full veil, Even her eyes was covered. MashAllah she was so beatiful i couldnt stop staring at her. All the kuffar driving where staring at her too. Subhanallah i was so jelous that i wished it was me dressed that way walking down the street. I'd really love to wear the full veil i just Don't know how thats possible, should i quit my work or take it off when i come to work how?

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  18. Assalam o Alaikum
    I have a similar problem. I am 18 and i strictly want to wear abaya (niqaab or burqa) covering myself from top to bottom so that no non-mehram man could have a glance of me. I wear hjiab..i wear it in the best way possible..covering my head and wearing full sleeves salwar suit and i do parda in a very decent way! But as Allah says to have a cloak over all your body and be in proper parda, I'm not able to do it...i asked ammi several times for letting me wear Abaya but every time she scolds me and refuses giving and excuse that i am too small or i won't be faithful to it...some day I'll wear it and someday I'll not...and i am left speechless because i don't know how to make her understand the fact that Allah wants me to parda and i should do it! Please help me! 😞😞

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  19. Jazak Allahu Khayr sister. Beautiful post and great advice, May Allah reward you.

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  20. Assalamualaikum sister, i wish i can wear niqab. I really like to look at sister who wear niqab. In my hearr i always dua to Allah swt to open my heart that one day from wearing a hijab i can wear a niqab. My 3yo son prefer me in niqab rather than hijab. A great advice to all the sister who want to wear. Jazak Allahu Khayr :)

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  21. Allah hu Akbar May Allah SWT reward all our sisters who wears the Niqab especially in these difficult times because they are doing it solely to please our Creator Allah SWT. insha Allah May Allah SWT Grant yous all to be the Queens of Jannah Ameen.

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  22. Allah hu Akbar May Allah SWT reward all our sisters who wears the Niqab especially in these difficult times because they are doing it solely to please our Creator Allah SWT. insha Allah May Allah SWT Grant yous all to be the Queens of Jannah Ameen.

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  23. Allaahuma barek fik sister alhumdulillaah...ma shaa Allaah i know of a sister who has been wanting to wear niqab since she was little and have always had the urge to wear it... after much research and analyzing the words of Allaah she decides now to wear niqab in shaa Allaah... she loves it and it makes her closer to Allaah like being in Jannah...however it is interesting though..her husband doesn't mind her wearing niqab but would prefer she does not wear it with him because he sees that when he is with her he is her protection already...so she doesn't need to wear it...and he likes seeing her face and expressions...but when he is not with her she can wear it in shaa Allaah...does this work also... and does it make sense as the fulfillment for the niqab... this will be of great help to my friend to get some advice in shaa Allaah...jazakallaahu khair

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  24. Subhan Allah Beshaq Well Said.. Its Fully Inspired Me... Jazak Allahu Khairan..

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  25. Asalam alikum mashaAllah its such an inspiring post .. over the past year ive been soo much intrested to wear niqab . i even got out and bought one for myself . my husband is very supportive about niqab but its just my 2yr old son everytime i try it out at home he will just full it off and he get scared ... any sisters had same problem? i love niqab and i feel those sisters who wear niqab is absolutly beautiful

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  26. Asalam alikum mashaAllah its such an inspiring post .. over the past year ive been soo much intrested to wear niqab . i even got out and bought one for myself . my husband is very supportive about niqab but its just my 2yr old son everytime i try it out at home he will just full it off and he get scared ... any sisters had same problem? i love niqab and i feel those sisters who wear niqab is absolutly beautiful

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    1. Walaykum salaam warahamtullahi wabarakatuhu sister.I think that's normal sister. Your child might be afraid at first but in sha Allah, with time, he will get used to it 😊

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  27. I was really inspired!! In Sha Allah I will wear it very soon!! It was really motivational post!!

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    1. Alhamdulillah,so glad to know. May Allah bless you and grant you strength

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