REVIEW OF BUTTERFLY NIQAB FROM SUNNAH STYLE

Product Name: Butterfly Niqab

Where to get it:  Sunnah Style

My rating

A lot of you who have been reading my blog will know about how much I stress on the fact that when you wear the Niqab, it becomes a part of you. Well, I mean that both in the literal and general sense. 

The thing is, I get really attached to my Niqab, so I always make sure that I buy the perfect one. Some of you might find it strange but I have been using the same Niqab for about 4 years now. I know, it might seem shocking but honestly, a lot of Niqabis I know of are pretty much the same. The Niqab I have been using for the past 4 years has been the same Niqab that I wear to the doctors, on trips, for shopping,funerals and for weddings. I've got so comfortable with my Niqab that I just don't to part with it just yet. And Alhamdulillah, the Niqab I have been wearing is perfect in comfort, size, material and just about everything so it doesn't even look worn out.

A lot of Muslimahs have asked me where to shop for the best Niqabs, and I generally recommend this website Sunnah Style. They have an amazing selection of Niqabs, Khimars, Hijabs and Abayas and some sisters have actually told me that it's the best online shopping Niqab store. Alhamdulillah, I was lucky enough to be offered one of their Niqabs for reviewing. After browsing through their amazing selection of Niqab, I finally chose the Butterfly Niqab.

The Niqab arrived by post a few days earlier and I've positively fallen in love with it! The texture, the design and the make is so elegant and it's now the best Niqab that I've ever owned :) (Sorry, old Niqab!)

I also got a card with the Duaa to be recited upon wearing a new dress along with the package. It so happens that we are so excited when we wear a new dress that we forget to recite the Duaa and thank Allah for giving it to us. And, ahem, same case with me too. I was so excited to get the Niqab that only after wearing it did I notice the card. Shukran for the reminder, Sunnah Style!

The best thing about this Niqab is that it's sort of a convertible Niqab and you can wear it in 3 different styles. The Niqab is made of two layers, the first one being the face cover and the second layer is a long fabric that can be worn in different styles. So basically it's like 3 styles in one Niqab.

1st style: 

The longer top layer can be flipped back completely so it falls all the way down to your knees at the back, depending on your height of course. This way, the Niqab serves as a Hijab too, covering the shoulders completely. I have actually tried out some 2- layered Niqabs but when I flip it back, the material sort of sticks out at an awkward angle, giving an elephant ear sort of look. Alhamdulillah, the material of the buttefly Niqab is so light and breezy, it looks absolutely perfect.

This is how this style looks from the front and behind:

2nd style:

The top layer can be pulled down so it covers the entire face including the eyes and because the top layer is so long, the Niqab comes all the way down on the front, reaching down to the midriff. The top layer is made out of a thin material so you can still see everything perfectly well even with the Niqab covering the eyes.

3rd style:

This is my favourite style and this is what make this Butterfly Niqab so unique from the others. The top layer is flipped back halfway and the hem if brought forward towards the eye or forehead, creating a really elegant wavy effect. So now, Alhamdulillah, I have the perfect Niqab to wear on special occasions :)

What I look for most importantly when getting a new Niqab is the fabric because if it's not good, then the Niqab will be unwearable. I live in a country where the climate is really humid so the Niqab material needs to be soft and breathable and this Butterfly Niqab is made of Korean chiffon and it so comfortable and lightweight to the point that you hardly even notice that you're wearing the Niqab. Being a Niqab for nearly 10 years now, believe me when I say that not all Niqab can make you feel this way. Some materials are so scratchy that it starts irritating the area around the eye and forehead and sometimes, the fabric gets worn out so soon that you start sneezing. 

Another great feature of this Niqab is that the eye opening is neither too small that you have to scrunch up your eyes not too big that you have to keep adjusting it every few minutes. This Niqab stays perfectly secure once it is tied so you don't have to adjust it often. 

And finally, I have noticed that Niqabs worn for special occasions and functions are really too glamorous with embedded stones and vibrant embroidery. I find this a little too attractive and it brings in too much attention when you actually wear the Niqab to take attention away from men. So this is exactly why I have worn the same old Niqab for functions and weddings. But with the Butterfly Niqab's wavy effect style, it is really a perfect occasion Niqab, if I can call it that. It's not flashy, but at the same time, it's beautifully elegant in a simple way. I couldn't have asked for anything better! Alhamdulillah!

This Niqab is a little costly at over USD 20 (at least for me), but trust me when I say this sisters- it's totally worth it. And if you use one Niqab for as long as I do, then it's going to be an investment worth it. Plus, this Niqab can be worn in 3 different styles so it's like 3 Niqabs in 1.

Sunnah Style have a range of other beautiful Niqabs in different colours and styles, so check out their collection here http://sunnahstyle.com/14-all-niqabs

You can check out their Abayas, Hijabs and Khimars on their website here http://sunnahstyle.com/

Jazakallah khair Sunnah Style for giving me the opportunity to review this Niqab!

Disclaimer: I received this product in exchange for an honest review and was not compensated in any way. All thoughts and opinions are my own

NIQABIS- OPPRESSED OR IN SERENITY?

Why are those who choose to veil looked down upon but those naked, praised?

So who are these women covered from head to toe, are they oppressed and burdened as depicted in the morning paper or are they women who embody serenity? Are they enslaved under a patriarchal system or at peace- as free as they can be.

There are three main types of Islamic dress relating to women when in public:

• Headscarf (Known as Hijab): This is the most common type where the woman is fully covered with only the hands and face visible. 
• Niqab: This is normally a dull coloured gown that covers the whole body except the eyes. 
• Burqa: This is like the Niqab but the eyes are covered too or sometimes thick netting is used in the eye area- just enough to see. 

They are worn in the presence of men who are classed as Non-Mahrams- You can read more on them here.

Less than 0.2% of Muslim women wear the face veil. The most common reason is to devote their efforts towards attaining the nearness to God. There are Islamic traditions where some women completely veiled themselves from social life; It is not simply covering up, it is a practise that entails embodiment of complete servitude. This means as an individual you adhere to Gods manner 110%- a life full of complete honesty, integrity, fairness, kindness, forbearance, humility, compassion, selflessness and forgiveness. However this is not the intention of some, for them it’s emulating the wives of the Prophet ﷺ (out of love) or veiling their beauty from strange men.

Top ten replies of a survey asked to 100 Muslims and 100 non-Muslims

Undoubtedly the Niqab has an Islamic basis, Islamic texts make it clear that the ‘hijab’ is compulsory for Muslim women to observe. However scholars have differed as to whether the Niqab is compulsory or an optional act of virtue.

“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters, as well as all believing women, that they should draw over themselves some of their outer garments [when in public]: this will be more conducive to their being recognised as decent women and not molested, And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” 

Quran 33:59

To understand this difference further please see my additional post: What is the Niqaab?


Now, we are at a period of time where the Niqab is portrayed as something barbaric, oppressive and suppressive of female empowerment. Media campaigns have been launched, brainwashing the average Joe, and now many countries have banned the wearing of this garment, while others have considered banning or limiting its use.

Looking closer at the issue, why is it that we alienate those who choose to veil themselves and applaud those who wear the bare minimum. If having freedom of choice is female empowerment, surely the Niqabis should be respected too. As much as you may argue that men enforce the Niqab, it’s also men who use women for sexual objectification. Its a simple fact. Societies at large applauded Kim Kardashian for her recent bare nude pictures – but really, is this what we’ve come down too?

J.D. Unwin, a behaviourist of Cambridge University, studied 80 primitive tribes and 16 civilized nations in regarding sex and culture. He concluded ‘that the cultural behaviour of any human society depends first on the inherent nature of the human organism, and secondly, on the state of energy into which, as a result of its sexual regulations, the society has arrived.’ From his findings, low level culture was found in tribes insisting on sex without marriage and high level civilisation was found in tribes insisting on pre-marital chastity. Therefore limitation of sexual opportunity is key in reduced rates of rape, harassment, oppression and abuse of women.

This does not necessarily mean every woman should veil but looking at society around us, its difficult to deny the truth. And it certainly does not mean the veil will prevent all cases of rape and molestation but the idea of modesty- not only protects you but society too. G. A Parwez proposes that, ‘in both primitive and modern societies, it can be evaluated that observing modesty plays a key role in the development of a purer richer culture’.

A question of choice 

Furthermore, regardless of the many connotations the niqaab holds, should it mean that a woman’s freedom of choice should be taken away? Modern societies are based on the emphasis of democracy and human rights, from which, every person has the right to freely practise their religion. As the Niqab has a religious facet, it goes against this core human right.

“Everyone has the right to freedom of thought, conscience and religion… either alone or in community with others and in public or private..” Article 9 ECHR

Therefore whilst claiming to protect Muslim women- a ban would make life intolerable for those who wear the Niqaab, by forcing them to choose between defying their beliefs and leave the house or not leaving the house at all.


It should be noted that even amongst Muslims there is disagreement on the veil but differences in opinion are respected. Its unanimous that the Niqaab does have a place in Islam, the Prophet’s ﷺ wives wore a Niqaab. As they are the Mothers of the Believers, they are also role models for Muslim women, so some Muslim women wish to emulate them in every respect. Let’s look at some common questions and issues raised:

Common Questions

It is oppressive – Muslim women who choose to wear the Niqaab do so out of their own free will, believing it is an act of worship and a form of liberation from the objectification of women in modern society. In fact, preventing Muslim women from practising their religion is what is truly oppressive. When it comes down to being oppressed, the problem is not the Niqaab but the man, it is him who is possessive.

It is backwards – The Niqaab is not part of a short-lived fashion trend. It is a religious garment and act of worship which is not subject to time and therefore, does not become outdated. In fact, the Niqaab is gaining much popularity in modern societies, especially amongst Western convert women.

It is intimidating – While the Niqaab may appear intimidating to some people, it is not worn with the intention of being threatening or frightening. People are often intimidated by what they have no knowledge of, and the Niqaab is a piece of clothing which should not warrant fearful reaction. Underneath the Niqaab is a person simply trying to practise their religion. It is interesting to note that other forms of dress and appearance are no longer considered intimidating, as they have become accepted by the wider community. Tattoos, extremely short dresses, revealing clothes, body piercing and outlandish hairstyles are all examples of this phenomena.

Form of male domination – Wearing the Niqaab does not in any way suggest that women are inferior to men. Claiming that the Niqaab is a symbol of male domination goes against the fact that many women voluntarily wear the Niqaab, some even wear it against their husbands wishes.

Barlas 2003 said Female inferiority was not an ideology in Muslim societies, but Muslims had family laws that were based on male authority. The purpose was to lead the family in to a rich and respectable family. Islam does not disallow women to work or take charge, but emphasis on men was placed to show there is a duty.

Anti-social – There is nothing in the Niqaab that prevents a woman from interacting with other members of society, or from participating in the community. In fact, neither the Hijab nor the Niqaab are required when among women only. Every woman who wears a Niqaab is a unique individual, and it is unfair and inaccurate to make a sweeping judgement about all such women based on one item of clothing they have in common. Community values necessitate that people should not be judged by what they wear, nor discriminated against or mistreated, based on their choice of clothing or appearance.

It stops women from contributing to society – Wearing a Niqaab does not stop a woman from contributing to society or from pursuing higher education. Many women who wear the Niqaab are very highly educated, or lead very successful careers. From the very advent of Islam, Aisha, the wife of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), was and still is renowned as one of the greatest Islamic scholars to have ever lived. The fact that she wore the Niqaab did not, in any way, hinder her from becoming such a prominent scholar or from teaching the men and women of her society.

It is a security risk – Niqaab are no more of a security risk than a motorcycle helmet, big fashion sunglasses, or a big beanie, and can be removed when identification is required for security reasons. Of course, the request for removal should be done by another woman and not in the presence of men (where possible).

So to conclude, when you come across a woman in a Niqaab, always remember that she is an individual, she has her own interests and personality. The moment you paint her with the same brush as Fox News, all you do is distant yourself from interacting with another human. In the modern world we are all striving to be ourselves and live amongst each other, its important to understand that religious belief is not mere opinion, it is very dear to some people. So if a woman chooses to wear a veil as part of her religion, then honour and respect that. But if you suspect that a woman is wearing a veil out of oppression, then be there, and support her. It helps no one in pointing the finger. Many women who practise the Niqaab are in serenity, no one should have that taken away from them. To finish this post I have shared some snippets of thought from a few Niqaabis. Enjoy!

Some Snippets

The niqab is a religious symbol and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.


Personally, Muslim women wear the niqab to build a stronger and closer connection with the Almighty. It provides you with a sense of safety and protection. Not only that, it lets others know about your religion, and that is where the pride comes from. Alhamdulillah we are blessed to be Muslims and I love embracing that through wearing the Niqab. Also, due to the huge amount of fitna nowadays, I feel safeguarded and modest in my Niqab.


See me for me, not my beauty.


Because its her choice. :) Muslim or not, a woman has the right to choose what she wishes to let others see, and if she wishes to guard her modesty entirely by not allowing others to see her face then that is perfectly acceptable.


Because personally, I felt that the Hijab wasn’t enough. Its like covering the ring but flaunting off the diamond.


Being an active student of knowledge for the past few years, my ‘image’ became less important and the person inside became more prominent, something I really needed to focus on. I simply understood the beauty of modesty. In actions, in words and in physical covering. My beauty should be for my husband only, I refuse to be looked upon like I’m some prey, and even hijab wasn’t enough to keep perverted eyes away. Sacrifices were definitely worth this feeling, and I have never felt more at peace in my life.



You look at me and call me oppressed,
Simply because of the way I’m dressed,You know me not for what is inside,You judge the clothing I wear with pride,

My body is not for your eyes to hold,
You must speak to my mind, not my feminine mould,I’m an individual. I’m no man’s slave,It’s Allah’s pleasure that I only crave,

I have a voice so I will be heard,
For in my heart I carry His word,“O ye women, wrap close your cloak,So you won’t be bothered by ignorant folk”.

Man doesn’t tell me to dress this way,
It’s law from God that I obey,

Oppressed is something I’m truly not, For liberation is what I’ve got, It was given to me many years ago,With the right to prosper, the right to grow,

I can climb mountains or cross the seas, Expand my mind in all degrees,For God Himself gave us liberty,When He sent Islam, to you and me!

A re-post from http://www.sociable7.com/2015/03/11/oppressed-or-in-serenity/

DANGERS OF FREEMIXING ONLINE- IS IT REALLY WORTH IT?

I heard a very interesting lecture recently on how to maintain your modesty, wherever you are, particularly on social networking sites. It’s common to see men and women free mixing here, private messaging and interacting in a way they obviously shouldn't.  To those who do that, stop and think for a while- Do you think you are doing something that would please Allah? Modesty is a branch of Imaan, and when you talk/tweet to non-mahrams, you are actually lifting your modesty. Allah has told us that if our modesty if lifted, we are fit to do anything. To all of us, isn't modesty a very priceless thing? Are you willing to sell it in the cost of interacting with non-mahrams?

Remember, when a man and a woman are alone, Shaytan is the third person there. When you are tweeting/chatting, it’s obviously between yourselves, so what makes you think that Shaytan will not intrude and create feelings among you that would lead to haraam? We may wear the Hijab/Niqab, but if our walk, talk, voice or actions attract a man, we are accountable for it and if that happens, you are lifting your modesty. If you may not have any feeling towards the one you are chatting/tweeting, can you absolutely guarantee that the other person feels the same way about you? If your messages, even if it be a “yes”, “no”, “Hi” or even a “hmm” attracts a non-mahram, what are you going to say when you stand before Allah (SWT) on the Day of Judgement? How are you ever going to justify yourself for talking or attracting a non-mahram?

This is a humble reminder, first to myself and then to the others. Some of us may not reply to non-mahrams, but if they are friends on Facebook or following us on Twitter, our status/tweets would appear on their timeline. How can you guarantee that someone will not be attracted to your status updates/tweets. Aren’t you accountable to Allah for those feelings you created, although it may be unknowingly. What are you going to tell Allah when He questions you about it in front of the entire mankind on the Day of Judgement? Think for yourself.

I know that some of those reading this will find it hard to accept, but please remember that you are accountable for each and every action you do on the Day of Judgement. Isn't the greater Jihaad fighting against your own desires? Do it for the sake of Allah and your sacrifice might be that one thing which may lead you to either Jannah or Jahannam. Allah has told in the Quran that Shaytan makes our deeds fair-seeming to us. Fight against Shaytan and fight against your own self. This is not only for your betterment, but also the betterment for the entire Ummah In sha Allah.

A sign of true Imaan is when you fear Allah, both in secret and in public. It might be hard for us to do avoid this temptation but just think of how happy and pleased our beloved Rabb with be with us. Isn't gaining His pleasure the ultimate thing we all want? If after reading this, you still continue talking to non-mahrams online, or any other form of socializing, remember that doing a sin even after knowing fully well that it's bad is an even bigger sin. That guilt will always be with you. Do this one sacrifice and see for yourself how rewarding it will be In sha Allah. It might be tough, but as time goes on you will see that what you did was actually your duty.

Do it solely for the pleasure of Allah and if Allah is pleased with your sacrifice and effort, isn't that an exceptional honour? Allah will be proud of our sacrifice and He will make it easy for us In sha Allah. For the sake of Allah, please share this so that other might benefit from this too In sha Allah. If this can bring about a change in someone, Allah will reward you for it. May Allah accept all of us. Aameen.

A MESSAGE TO ALL THOSE WHO HAVE THEIR OWN PICTURES UPLOADED ONLINE

Bismillahi Rahman ar-Raheem

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu!

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their modesty. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do.” [Quran, 24:30]

“And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty….” [Quran 24: 31]

It's a bit disappointing to see people (men and women) having their pictures on the web. Particularly as profile pictures on social networking sites.

Be completely honest with yourself: Why do you want your picture displayed for everyone to see? Do you honestly think that it's an Islamic thing to do? On Twitter and Facebook especially, where people can get familiar with others very, very soon and the main reason behind intermixing is by the profile pictures. It's obvious that the picture you'd want to upload is one of the best shot you have of yourself and there's obviously going to be a possibility of strangers being attracted to your picture and if they do, you are responsible for their sinning too.

Islam has asked both men and women to lower their gazes & having pictures of yourself displayed is certainly not going to help others lower their gaze, and if they are attracted to your picture, it might be something Allah will be angry about. None of us would obviously want to be the reason behind Allah wrath, may Allah save us!

Sisters who have their pictures uploaded: It's a terribly dangerous thing to do. You have absolutely no idea how many feeling you may be arousing in the hearts of strangers. You are accountable for them seeing your pictures too. Do you think it's worth any risk?

Brothers who have their pictures uploaded: Women have eyes too, so they could obviously get attracted to you. In not having your picture displayed, you are in fact helping women to lower their gazes too.

Our Prophet Muhammad Sallalahi Alaihi Wasallam has said: "The Zina of the eye is the (lustful) look'' [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

Again, actions depend on their intentions, so do it solely for the purpose of pleasing Allah and make the intention right now that you are going to take off any pictures you have uploaded and Allah will undoubtedly make your task easier for you, In sha Allah.

Remember that doing something even after knowing it's wrong is a mighty sin. Please take this bit of advice. It won't be difficult. After all, what is the point of having your pictures displayed for everyone to see? We all have to maintain modesty as much as we can, shouldn't we? This is a massive step towards the modesty of us, and modesty of all the Muslims too, In sha Allah.

Please share this message because if this is going to bring about a change in someone, you will be rewarded for it too by Allah's Grace. Knowledge is something that should be passed on, so please do let others know about this too.

May Allah accept all of us and give us the strength to control our desires and show us a clear distinction between what is right and wrong... Aameen!

If any one does a righteous deed, it is for the benefit of his own soul; if he does evil, it works against his own soul. In the end will you all be brought back to your Lord.” [Qur’an 45:15]

HOW TOUGH IS IT TO LOWER OUR GAZES?

Lowering the gaze. Well, it's easier said than done. But Alhamdulillah, there are many people I know who have successfully managed to lower their gazes with the continous Help of Allah (SWT). As for me, I'm trying very hard to lower my gaze as I should, so whatever I'm writing right now is first, a reminder to myself.

I've heard a Hadith that says that Prophet Muhammad (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) once asked the Sahabi what the most precious thing for a woman was. None of the Sahaba replied, but Ali (ral) went home and repeated to the question to Fatimah (ral) to which she replied that the best thing for a woman is that she is neither seen by any non-mahram men nor does she see any non-mahrams. Ali (ral) repeated this answer to Prophet Muhammad (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) and when asked who told Ali (ral) the answer, he replied it was Fatimah (ral). Prophet Muhammad (sallalu alaihi wasallam) then said, "Fatimah bint Muhammad, Fatimah bint Muhammad, Fatimah bint Muhammad. Fathima is really the son of Muhammad".

I know it's tough to lower our gazes, particularly when a good looking man or a pretty girl is right in front of your eyes. But that's what we have to do. And it's not impossible. I've really thought that lowering the gaze, particularly for teenagers is tough, but Masha Allah, my younger sister proved me wrong! I'm extremely proud that she is very, very strict with herself when it comes to lowering her gaze and I pray that Allah gives us the strength to do so.

Now, how to lower our gazes? First, we have to have the firm intention and pray to Allah that He strengthens us. It's a battle against our desires and we're striving against our ownselves solely for the Pleasure of Allah. This, my brothers and sisters, is the greater form of Jihad because this is a battle against yourself, against your desires and against the whispers of Shaytan. It takes huge, huge, courage, but it's possible, provided you have firm Imaan and Taqwa.

Prophet (sallalahu alaihi wasallam) said: “You will never give up something for the sake of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, but Allah will replace it with something that is better for you than it.” [Narrated by Ahmad]

When you give up doing something that Allah doesn't like solely for His sake, Allah WILL replace it with something much, much better. So just imagine that a really good-looking man/girl walks past you, and you lower your gaze, don't you think Allah will replace your sacrifice for something much better? Who knows, you might end up getting married to someone a hundred times more beautiful than the one you thought was beautiful! Subhanallah! No sacrifice of ours goes wasted. Allah will give us a better compensation.

So next time your tempted to look at a non-mahram, however lovely they may be, lower your gaze. This sacrifice of yours would undoubtedly, give you something much better. Something a lot more worth. Just keep this Hadith Qudsi in your mind when your tempted to see a non-mahram:

"The gaze is a poisonous arrow from among the arrows of Iblis (satan). Whoever protected his heart and gaze from this arrow due to My fear, I will grant him the sweetness of Iman that he will perceive in his heart."

Only you know how tough it is to lower your gaze, but your doing it for Allah right? So take that moment to make Dua to Allah. Put forward that sacrifice you did only for His sake and ask Him for whatever you want. Allah will answer it, no doubts about that!

I'm still striving to lower my gaze and although I may not be as successful in doing this as I wanted to be, I'm trying. And I know that when I try for the sake of Allah, Allah will guide me all along the way, In Sha Allah!

A DISTURBING INCIDENT THAT HAPPENED THROUGH FACEBOOK

There is always huge wisdom behind Allah's orders, and the same goes with the Mahram issue. For a Muslim, the most important thing is his/her modesty, and it's extremely worrying to see that modesty isn't taken as a highly important and respectful characteristic anymore. Somehow, most people-Muslims included- restrict the concept of modesty simply to their attire and nothing more. One important thing to be remembered is that Hijab, for both men and women, is not only to with with clothes. Rather, it's a complete set of morals and conduct.

Back to the topic now. I've heard more than one story about intermixing on the internet, particularly on Facebook and chatrooms, and how it has lead to extremely distressful consequences. I know that Muslims often overlook that fact that intermixing with their non-mahrams in not allowed in Islam, and most of them don't see it as a sin in the first place. May Allah guide me, you and everyone else! I did put up on Twitter about the dangers of intermixing with non-mahram, but most people get the message only after they have read some real story about the dangers of Facebook and other social networking sites. So, I heard a story- a very, very disturbing one, and I just have to share it with all of you. It's true and it did happen, which is why I'm telling it now.

A girl and a man started communicating via Facebook. They got familiar with each other, and very soon, they fell in love and expressed their feelings to each other.. Not much later afterwards, they decided to meet up at a local restaurant. So, they set up a date, and decided that they would meet at such an such a place, etc, etc. Now both, the girl and the man went to the restaurant at the time appointed, and Subhanallah, none of them ever expected to see what they saw: The girl and man communicating all that while on Facebook where in fact a daughter and her very own father! What a shock it must have been for both of them! Apparently, both of them had gone under different Facebook usernames, so they didn't know who they were talking to. But see where it lead. After all the confessions of love, it turns out to be a father and daughter... Imagine the situation of the mother when she got to know all about it? May Allah save all Muslims from the Fitna of the internet. Aameen!

I'm not saying here that you shouldn't use the internet. What I'm saying here is that you should be aware of your limits, aware of Shariah, aware of what you're doing, and more importantly, aware of the fact that wherever you may be, Allah is watching you. This thought alone is enough to save a true Muslim from any shameful behaviour.

By the way, this isn't the only story I've heard about the consequences of intermixing online. Almost everyday, people are being plunged into extra-marital relationships, haraam dating, etc, and the simple reason behind this is that people aren't aware of the consequences of it. When a man and woman talk to each other alone, Shaytan is the third person in their midst, and he will try his best to create feeling that ought not to be created between those two people. Remember that whatever sin you may be doing, or whatever sin you may already have done, Allah is watching you, and He will bring the truth out in the Aakhira, if not in this world itself. Nothing is hidden from Him.

If there's anyone of you reading this has any relationship with a man/woman online, the only bit of advice I can give you is to fear Allah. You know it's a sin now, and you know what it may lead to, so stay away from it. All relationships start with a 'Hi' and end up in God knows what, so stick to the Shariah and follow what Allah has asked us to. Please do steer clear from interacting with non-mahrams!