Dear sisters, don't feel sad or deprived if you are unable to pray or fast during the month of Ramadhan. Realize that Allaah has decreed for all women to have menses. It's not just you. All women have to go through this. And when the time for it comes, it comes.
Dear sister, never forget that Islaam means submission....submission to Allaah and His rules. Submitting to His rules IS Ibaadah. And it was Allaah Who ordered you to stop praying and fasting in the first place. So when you give up praying or fasting during your menses, realize that you are obeying Allaah and worshipping Him by submitting to His Orders. Realize that not praying or fasting during your menses is Ibaadah itself.
1. Read the meanings and tafseer of the Qur'aan:
Pick up a good tafseer of the Qur'aan and read it. There is no Tahaarah required for it. Reflect on the words of your Rabb, ponder over the meanings and understand what Allaah is saying to us. These ayaat,my sister, are not there just for us to read; rather to interact with them, and implement them in our lives. Allaah says:"(This is a) Book that We have sent down to you, full of blessings, so that they may ponder over its aayaat, and that those of understanding may remember."[Surah Saad:29]
2. Listening to the Qur'aan:
There's nothing like listening to a beautiful recitation of the Qur'aan, especially at times when you are feeling down, such as because of your period. It fills the heart with such tranquility, such peace that no words can describe. It increases Imaan and brings you great rewards since listening to the Qur'aan with an attentive heart is an act of Ibaadah in itself.
3. Do a lot of Dhikr:
Keep your tongue moist with the remembrance of Allaah, when you are on your period and when you are not. There is nothing like it. It is one of the most beloved deeds to Allaah and His Messenger (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) and gets you tremendous rewards. And yet, it's so easy, Alhamdulillaah.
The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) said:"The uttering of the words: "Subhaan Allaah, Alhamdulillaah, La ilaha illAllaah and Allaahu Akbar' is dearer to me than anything over which the sun rises.''(Muslim)
4. Make lots and lots of Dua:
Ramadhaan is the month of blessings, mercy and forgiveness. He is the Giver and we are in desperate, desperate need of His Mercy, His Kindness, His Blessings and His Forgiveness.
So go ahead and make dua, lots and lots of it; for dua is one of the best acts of Ibaadah.
The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) said, “Dua is ‘Ibaadah (worship).” (Tirmidhi-saheeh by Albaani).
5. Do plenty of Istighfaar:
My sister, Ramadhaan is THE month of repentance.
The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa sallam) said: "Jibreel said to me, `May he be destroyed, the person who Ramadan comes and his sins are not forgiven,' and I said, Ameen'....." (Saheeh al-Jaami')
Subhaan Allaah! What better a chance to have your sins forgiven than this? Now is your chance. The gates of Jannah are open and the gates of Hell are shut, and the sinners’ repentance to Allaah is accepted. So don't let this chance go by just because you are on your menses. Make sincere repentance to Allaah
6. Send blessings upon the Prophet (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam):
Send blessings upon the Prophet (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) in abundance as this is one of the greatest means of having duas answered, and is a great way of earning rewards from Allaah
"Allaah and His angels praise and venerate the Prophet (Muhammad). O you who believe! Praise and venerate him (Muhammad) and pronounce peace upon him in abundance." (al-Ahzaab:56).”
7. Thank Allaah:
All Praise is due to Allaah Alone, Who gives His sinful slaves a chance to earn multiple rewards, have their sins forgiven and their duas accepted. It is He Who made you Muslim, enabled you to live to witness Ramadhaan and Who give you the opportunity to worship Him. And even having your period is a reason for you to give thanks to Him.
8. Seek knowledge:
Seeking Islaamic knowledge is one of the best forms of Ibaadah and a great source of blessings and rewards. It is the way that leads to Jannah. The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) said:
"He who embarks on the path of seeking knowledge, Allah will ease for him the way to paradise." (Muslim)
9. Give charity:Ibn Abbas RA said: “The Prophet (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) was the most generous of the people, and he used to be even more so in the month of Ramadan....he would be more generous than a swift wind (bringing rain).”(Bukhaari)
So give and give and give for the sake of Allaah during this month.
10. Do all kinds of good deeds:
Ibaadah just isn't about praying and fasting. It's also about how you deal with people and doing all kinds of good deeds. So you can earn rewards and worship Allaah in your menses by serving your parents, keeping up the ties of kinship, being kind to everyone, giving dawah, enjoining what is right, forbidding what is wrong,
etc. etc.
Hope this helped and make the best of these remaining few days and do not let shaythan confuse you or make you feel inferior in good deeds because you are on your menses for this is a way of him stopping you from pleasing Allah. Please remember me in your dua's to.
And Allah knows best in all matters
